As a pastor, Dan Lozer was in a bit of a bind when it came to meeting women to date.
He knew plenty of single women, but they belonged to his congregation, and he thought a pastor shouldn't date a member of his flock.
So he turned to an online dating service about a decade ago.
He was divorced and a 50-year-old father of three, plus pastor of a church in South Dakota at the time.
Donna Moir was 44, and was living and working near Le Mars, Iowa.
Donna, who had never been married, worked nights so had trouble meeting guys to date.
So she decided to try online dating.
Through the online service, Dan and Donna answered basic questions about themselves such as their career plans and whether they wanted to have children.
The dating service determined they had potential as a couple and gave them a chance to meet.
They exchanged a few emails, and in May 2004 they met at park in Yankton, S.D., which was about halfway between where they each lived.
Dan and Donna spread out a blanket on the grass and talked.
Since they were both older they didn't want to waste months dating someone who would turn out to be the wrong fit. So they asked each other straightforward questions, such as whether either had bad habits that might be a deal-breaker for a relationship.
“We had to put it on the line,'' Donna said.
As they talked, they discovered there were no deal-breakers. They also found they had plenty in common — including a love for watching hockey.
After that meeting, they kept in touch through emails and phone calls. They would meet for dates where they would take walks, browse through book stores and play miniature golf.
Dan and Donna fell in love and married Nov. 23, 2004, in a Methodist church near Sioux City, Iowa.
The couple live near Le Mars, and Dan is now pastor of two churches, one in Sioux City, and one nearby. He also teaches part time.
Dan and Donna recently faced a major challenge. Dan was diagnosed this spring with skin cancer, which had spread. A few weeks ago doctors had to amputate his right foot to contain the disease.
Donna has been a big supporter, helping Dan into the car and up and down steps, and helping him put on his artificial foot.
She said the dating service helped connect them, but it's the Lord who's keeping them strong.
“We had God on our side,'' she said.