The most important thing to understand when you are on your journey to better health is your “why.” Why do you want to live a healthy lifestyle? Why are you wanting to make a change in your life? If you do not know the reason you started, what is the point?
These are the questions that you must ask yourself. Try to dig deep and get to the most truthful and honest reasons without judging yourself. Your “why” can be anything from wanting to look nice in a specific outfit to lowering your cholesterol.
When I started the process of finding my “why,” I thought it would be simple. I wanted to change my life because I wanted to make it to 30 years old. Then I asked myself why I wanted to make it to age 30. And the process just kept going and going until I hit the root cause of why I wanted to change.
My “why” is my happiness. I have spent too much time in my life unhappy. So I created a checklist to work off of every day to become the happiest I could possibly be. I wrote down weekly what I felt would make me happy, such as relationships, family or even things like music, art and exercising. Then I would ask myself throughout the week if I was taking the correct steps to reach those happiness goals.
I could not answer yes to that every day! However, that’s OK; you are not going to accomplish your “why” in a matter of days or weeks. Your “why” will most likely take months or even years. Just be patient and put in the hard work. It will pay off!
The amazing thing about your “why” is, you can use it as motivation. When things get tough, ask yourself these three questions:
Is this difficult or is this impossible?
There is an immense difference between these two, and how you answer that question will determine your success. If something is difficult, hard work and dedication will most likely accomplish the task. If it is impossible maybe you should look at a different approach or realign your “why.”
Is this within my control?
If there is a factor that is not in your control, do not worry about it! Wasting time worrying about something you have no control over will waste energy and time you could be putting toward something that is in your control, like nutrition and exercise.
Is this a battle worth fighting?
There are going to be battles along your health journey that will not be worth fighting, and there will be battles that you will fight to the end of the Earth. Choose these battles wisely! After “Extreme Weight Loss” wrapped and I came back to Nebraska, I had to choose if it would be beneficial to maintain some of the unhealthy relationships I had developed from before my transformation. Ultimately I decided to distance myself, not because they were bad people, but because the relationship was bad for me. It is very difficult to do this but in the end it was best for everyone involved.